A PROMISE KEPT: Lessons Learned by Robin
Photography by Fran Collin
I’ve tried to be self-sufficient, but I realize I can’t do it alone. It’s a humbling experience to realize that I need the help of others in order to keep my promise. So, when I’m anxious or overwhelmed, I talk it out with people who offer emotional support—like the co-workers who take time to listen to my worries. Both Janelle and I also find it helpful to go to support groups run by the American Association of Kidney Patients.
I’m a strong believer in the mind–body connection, and I saw how stress was taking a toll on me. I was having headaches, catching colds and flu, and a lot of things I hadn’t had previously. So I went for therapy to learn meditation and relaxation techniques. I get help from a web site called Home Journeys (www.homejourneys.com), where people share their experiences. I also say prayers for faith that somehow there’s a reason for the trials we all experience.
I know I need to do kind things for myself, so I take a little time to read, write in my journal, give myself a pedicure or just walk on the beach. I also make sure I get proper nutrition.
I’ve learned to forgive myself for my weaknesses and imperfections, and to forgive others. I’m also learning to treasure each day, because there’s no guarantee of a future. I’m trying to live my best life now and to help my sister do the same. Things that used to be so important, like having perfect order in my home, take a backseat to mental health and a one-day-at-a-time attitude. I wish all caregivers and patients the same acceptance of that attitude, as they struggle with the emotional and spiritual challenges we face each day.